"I'm here" - The two words that will change your life
So simple you won't believe it
These two words might seem small but they have transformed my relationship with my kids, my husband, my friends and even at times myself.
If you find yourself in constant patterns of negotiation, escalation or that when you go to comfort someone, instead of gratitude they get defensive, maybe you are somebody who can’t HELP but reach for a solution as soon as you are presented with a problem.
And while your intentions are amazing, unfortunately, they aren’t getting you the results you want. If that is the case, then these two words will change your life too
“I’m here” says:
- I see you
- I get it
- I understand
- I value you
- You’re important
- I have capacity for you and your feelings
- I’m committed to you
- I’m safe for you to lean into
“I’m here” tells your child that you truly understand how “unfair” school was that day (even though you in your mind you are rolling your eyes!)
“I’m here” tells your teenager that you are safe to come to because you will not judge them (note – this is entirely separate from the concept of actions and consequences).
“I’m here” tells your friend or partner that you want to hear them and understand their side fully.
“I’m here” looks like:
- Physical presence
- Mental presence (not thinking of other things)
- Calm and regulated
- Soft and open
- Listening
- Validating
“I’m here” feels like:
- Safety
- Acceptance
- Love
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“I’m here” is the opposite of providing a solution.
It is total and ultimate presence – the one thing that can help ANYONE in ANY situation immediately feel better.
The next time you are having any type of relationship issue try saying this: “I’m here” and then embody what “I’m here” means. This will instantly create safety, trust, acceptance and understanding in the dynamic and help shift the energy, yielding a different outcome.
At the same time, if you are having any type of relationship issue, you must know it is simply mirroring a relationship issue you are having with yourself. If there is resentment, distrust, judgment for someone in your life – where are you resenting, not trusting, or judging yourself? What if you sat with yourself and gave yourself the same compassion you would (ideally) give to your child or a friend you cared about, saying to yourself and embodying for yourself the energy of “I’m here”?
What would it feel like to relax and melt into those words?
Knowing you are seen, held, supported?
In my coaching, I teach people how to give themselves what they need so they never have to depend on outside resources to be fulfilled.
There is nothing wrong with wanting external things – relationships, health, success – in fact you DESERVE to have all of those things in excess!
But cultivating and attracting them from a place of inner safety and worthiness will be far more successful than chasing after them in a dysregulated or insecure state.
Everything you want is on the other side of worthiness and self-love.
So be there – be there for yourself. Be there for others. Embrace and embody “I’m here” energy. Presence and authenticity is the key to unleashing the wave of abundance ready to flow your way.
Give these two little words a go today and hit reply and let me know what it unlocked.
With love,
P.s. Feel free to forward this on to somebody who you think might benefit from reading it 😉 or even somebody who embodies “I’m Here” for you.
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